Speed dating is a fun and exciting way to meet new people and potentially find a romantic partner without the time commitment of online dating. However, it can also be nerve-wracking, especially if you're not sure how to make the most of your time during the event! If you're planning to attend one of our speed dating events, here are some tips to help you show up and make the most of this experience...
Dress to impress
Did you know it only takes someone .3 seconds to create a first impression of you? So why not put your best foot forward? First impressions are important, so make sure you dress appropriately for the event. Choose an outfit that makes you feel confident, comfortable and yourself. Keep in mind that you'll be sitting for most of the evening, so make sure your outfit is also practical. You can’t go wrong with a classic all-black look or your best denim paired with a nice top and great shoes! Think date night casual. But if you’re someone who likes to go a little above, great!
Be open-minded
One of the best things about speed dating is that you get to meet a variety of people from different backgrounds and with different interests. Try to keep an open mind and don't be too quick to judge someone based on their appearance or occupation. You never know who you might connect with! You might even match with someone you would have never considered prior to this event, and that's fantastic! Speed dating allows you to find a natural connection with someone in that moment rather than weeks of online chatting (and googling answer - don’t act like you haven't done that before!)
Come prepared with questions
Speed dating is a fast-paced event, so it's important to come prepared with some questions to ask your potential matches. It’s never fun to answer the same questions 12 times in a row, “what do you do for work?”. Coming prepared with interesting and unique questions isn’t just a great way to connect but it’s also going to make you stand out from the crowd!
Listen actively
When you're in the middle of a speed dating event, it can be tempting to focus on what you're going to say next. However, it's important to actively listen to your date as well. Pay attention to what they're saying, ask follow-up questions, and show genuine interest in getting to know them. If you think you’re talking too much and are leaving dates knowing nothing about the other person, it’s time to start listening and talking less.
Take a deep breath
Speed dating can be overwhelming, especially if you're meeting a lot of people in a short amount of time. If you're feeling overwhelmed or need a break, don't be afraid to step away for a few minutes. Take a few deep breaths, grab a drink of water, and come back when you're feeling more relaxed.
Stay positive
Not every speed dating event will result in a match, and that's totally okay. Try to stay positive and have fun regardless of the outcome. It has been my experience that those that come in with a positive mindset, always have a great evening, and will typically get more matches than someone who comes in with a negative mindset. You never know who you might meet or what you might learn about yourself in the process.
Follow up with matches
After the event, make sure to follow up with any potential matches that you connected with. This can be as simple as sending a quick message or email to let them know you enjoyed meeting them and would like to see them again. Don't be afraid to take the initiative and suggest a follow-up date or activity!
Speed dating can be a fun and exciting way to meet new people and potentially find a romantic partner, or even a friendship or two. By following these tips, you can show up and have a successful experience that leaves you feeling positive and optimistic about the future. Remember, dating is a journey, and speed dating is just one step along the way. Enjoy the ride!
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