In a world of constant stimulation, we need to know how to stand out from the crowd. If you were to sit down and write-out all the qualities of your perfect partner, I bet the list would be jam-packed with amazing traits. Good looks, active lifestyle, intelligent, funny, successful, etc. Then we visualize the first meeting with our perfect person. We lock eyes from across the room, they start to walk towards us, ignoring all the people and activity around them, they open their mouths to say "Hi" and ... BAM ... it's five years later and we are happy, beautiful and married with children.
Bitch, please. That isn't real life, that's what TV and movies have brainwashed us to expect (and for some, expect nothing less). In reality, I guarantee the person you just described is not sitting at home waiting for you to finally run into them and change their lives forever. They are out living a dynamic, fulfilling life, meeting other amazing singles, and are being blown-up non-stop with other interesting singles wanting to turn their heads and earn their time.
These messages include, but are not limited to:
Text # 1. The slightly desperate "Hey, my name is (think of the most stalker'ish name here), you may not remember me, but we met at Sally's party. I hope you don't mind, but I got your number from a friend. I think you're really cute and we should go out sometime". *Translation* I wasn't confident enough to approach you at the party, but I have been obsessing about you all week and have talked about you to my friends, co-workers, my mom, and my neighbour. or:
Text # 2. After investing a bit of time in a back and forth texting conversation, the "We should hang sometime" text. *Translation* I don't feel like putting any effort into making a plan with you, nor will I be confident enough to call it a date. Please plan something for me, so I have an idea on how you feel about me. and finally:
Text # 3. My favorite, the "Hey Sexy" that comes out between the hours of 9:30 pm and 11:30 pm. *Translation* I'm lying in bed, and having just exhausted all my matches on Tinder, I am now going through my contact-list and found you. I have become completely numb to any individual qualities about a person, and am just looking for someone to entertain me until I'm tired enough to fall asleep.
I beg all of you to please rise above the pack! If someone possesses all those qualities in your initial list, you will have to try much harder than either of these three examples. women and men of value have seen and heard it all. If you want to stand out, you will need to work a bit harder, be original and show genuine interest in them as an individual.